I will list a few things I have an certain specific issue with and then will proceed to explain wherein my issue with them lies.
-opening doors
-walking women to the door/walking to the door to get the woman
-buying candy and flowers (cite Shrek)
-scheduling your time around your time with women
Note: If you do
not partake in any of the above activities, i'm not criticizing you. If you
do partake in any of the above activities, i'm not criticizing you. Nothing is your fault. I am not telling you to partake, nor am i telling you to not partake.
Okay. 1. If you are a man, and you should know if you are or you are not, why do you open doors for a woman? 2. Why do you walk a woman to the door or walk to the door (out of your car, etc.) to get a woman? 3. Why do you feel obligated at times to purchase candy and/or flowers for certain occasions?
Answers (correct me if i'm wrong or i've been misinformed):
1. because it's the right thing to do, because it's what your dad told you to do, because then you can have a clear view of what you can't see when you're walking next to them, etc.
2. for her safety, to drag her out to someplace she is reluctant to go, to be able to watch her walk again because the way she walks is hot, because it's the right thing to do, because you want her to kiss you or you want to be invited in, etc.
3. you are a marketing victim in a capitalist society, she asked for one or both, watching her smell flowers and/or eat candy is hot, etc.
The Real Reasons (bear with me and give it some thought):
1. You should do it because of your urge to want to do everything for them.
2. You should do it because of your urge to be next to them or near them as often and for as long as possible.
3. You should do it because candy is sweet and so is she, and flowers are pretty and she likes pretty things and they reminded you of her (Shrek's reasoning for picking the sunflower).
An addendum:
4. You should try to schedule your time around the time you spend with that woman because you want to see her as often as possible; being near her brings you a wonderful joy and being in her presence makes you feel like a better person.
This all boils down to the need and want to be with the one you love/the one you are attracted to for as long as possible and as often as possible. I think men do the above things for the wrong reasons. I know for a fact that unless i'm carrying something heavy (like a boulder; see previous blog) I don't need a man to open a door for me. Sure some doors are heavy, but i'm sure I can manage. He should want to open the door because he wants to do things for me. Be self-less and all of that. Do you see what I'm saying? I'm NOT saying that all men should open doors and walk their women to their doorstep and buy candy and flowers. I AM saying that if you are such a man that participates in such activities, you should be doing it for the right reasons.
All responses are welcome. Go ahead, Sean. Pamp. Argue away. I'm expecting some disapproval.